"Tony..." He didn't mean to set off intense feels. Steve's just being honest. Then of course he follows up with that. Steve just stares at him unsure whether to be offended or trying to use this as a teachable moment. He can only speak to his experience, but uh it doesn't really work that way. Show some sensitivity!! Some people aren't so highly evolved etc etc.

"Wow you actually said that. Yeah looking back it was playing with a toy every other boy played with that let me know 'hey I could date a guy too, huh?'" He shakes his head like Tony no. Who taught you anything??